BEING A GIRL
BY- ISHMEET KAUR MAC
I am a girl, biologically a girl is a human being that is feminine and young ,has the ability to reproduce. Usually girls are subjected to various problems that includes discrimination(as it stereotyped that boys are an asset whereas girls are meant to take care of children, and often girls in villages are not given right to education), bulling, in simple words its means to insult, threaten or pulling down a person’s ability so they can be repressed sometimes people who are generally weak and cant defend themselves are bullied and women are also stereotyped as a weak gender, harassment(cruel and annoying behaviour and harming a person on regular basis),domestic violence(aggressive behaviour within the home),marital rape(rape by spouse) and other sexual abuses and etc. Its seen that 1 in 3 women in India is probably to have been subjected to intimate partner violence but only 1 in 10 of these women formally reports the offence. Sexual abuses for minors or below 18 ,the legal age of assent , perch at 15.4%, down from 27.8% in 2018. Also, it was reported that 109 children are sexually abused everyday in India.
An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of abuser are male. Roughly 80–85% of completed rapes are committed by someone who is known to the victim. American Indian women are the only racial group more probably to be abused by a male outside their own racial group.
Its seen that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 7 boys by age 18 will have been the sufferer of some form of sexualized violence. Lifetime risk for violent exploitation including sexual abuse for women to live alone and suffer from mental illness is 97%. Also, there are subjected to taunts and inequality saying that boys are stronger.
So starting my story now, I am 14 years old, dont have really much experience but still faced few situations. Earlier I used to be happy with my life and all things were going pretty well. But when I entered into my teens my menstruation cycle started and I lost around ten kilograms of weight. Also, as was growing up it became really hard for me to accept myself as a girl. I used to be doubtful as other changes were too taking place. In 2020 March my whole family was positive and things arent well. My dad and grandpa was injected with a lot of injections and it used to hurt to see them like that. Also I was sexually abused when I came from cycling that too in front of my house, I was shattered and it was so quick felt really bad that I didnt even defend myself. Since then had fear from men, stopped going to cycling. Everything felt bad. Then had anxiety and insomnia, for nights I used to not sleep and that thing just flashed and I used to feel anxious and helpless. My parents showed me to a doctor but it didnt really work well. But time passed and I became over it. But before exam or if something worse happens or a bad experience I feel anxious. People always stare and its so insecure and sometimes it really feels bad to be girl because of all this, men really sometimes think that girls are a stuff to harass. Also, discrimination is there and arent allowed to go alone anywhere, feel isolated, lonely. In lockdown felt really alone as really didnt have anything to do even wasnt able to connect with friends.
I started going to school and struggled with friendship as old friends moved on and ignored that was really the worst time for me. Because I was innocent friends used to not pay attention and ignore. Also feeling for someone was something that made me regret. So, whatever bad used to happen I wrote in a diary and kept it with me. All these experiences made me physically and mentally stronger and I have realised that in this world its really hard to though a person and that I am my best friend and my problems are mine. Also these wont affect my friends its me who have to deal with all problems whether it will be staring, school issues, family issues, bulling or feelings , its just me who have to be firm enough to deal with all issues. Also, its essential to find positivity in negativity.